a life of counting the ways

Boom. Pregnant.

(Source: anaelsusabo)

karenhealey:

lavender-labia:

“Good morning New York. I’m sorry to bother you. I’m not hungry. I do not want food or money, I just need a little support. I got dumped last week and I’m trying to give her space but I can’t do nothing. If you have any words of advice for me, a quote that resonates with you or a story about second chances, please raise your hand and I’ll come to you. I have sharpie markers and I’ll stay as long as it takes.”

lavender-labia:

cuddlingisoptional:

I normally do not reblog this kind of shit, but for any dude that has ever been dumped, still in love and desperately tried to win her heart back, no matter the circumstance…this is legit shit. And do not give me that bullshit “dude, if she dumped you she obviously doesnt want to be with you, just get over it, you pathetic asshole”…First of all, fuck you. Second of all, fuck you.

Your comments are the epitome of rape culture and everything that is wrong with concept of friend-zoning. Fuck you. Like actually fuck you, you entitled piece of shit. Women owe you NOTHING. Women do know what they want, and if they dump you it IS because they don’t want to be with you. Stop perpetuating the sexist assumption that women don’t know their own mind. No means no, and any other interpretation is rape culture at work. You and your commentary can actually fuck off. 

As for the OP: I’m speechless. “I’m trying to give her space, but I’m walking around with her face on a sandwich board and I’m convincing everyone that she’s the horrible person here and I’m so unfairly victimised.” Cool story, bro. Tell me more about how you’re irresistible and why everyone should want to be with you.

Reblogging to add: behaviours like this become even more terrifying when you consider that the riskiest time in a woman’s life is when she breaks up with a male partner (in that she is significantly more likely to be murdered than at any other point in her life). Too often that partner perceives the break up as a challenge to their authority/masculinity and take drastic action to either a) get them back or b) stop anyone else from having them either. That - in addition to the rapey/entitled undertones - is what makes this dude’s actions so fucking terrifying. 

Thanks for nothing, horrifying romantic comedies.

<passive aggressive comment>So… everyone asking for a second chance now is a rapist. Wow, I better apologize to that guy for raping him before he reports me. Wait. Where should I report my father who lives abroad and fails at keeping contact but constantly asks for us to try again? </passive aggressive comment>

Okay, I’m really feeling sympathetic for all the women who’ve had had bad experiences with men and now think that the whole gender is a couple of assholes who think with with their dicks.

The guy is stating that he loves his ex, he wants a second chance and he wants people to write down stories/quotes/advice about second chances.

If he’s asking anyone to hold his ex down while he “takes what’s his” I must have missed that part of the board.

There’s a lot to be said about the four levels of communication. Read up on it, some time, and then think about what you hear and what you think it means.

He could be saying:

a) “I love my ex, she dumped me, there’s nothing I can do but hope for a second chance, please write something about second chances on my board.” (factual)

b) “I still love my ex, I feel helpless because there’s nothing I can do, please write down something for me and show your support.” (appeal)

c) “I got dumped, people, can you relate to that and write something on my board?” (relationship)

d) “I feel crappy because I got dumped, I still love that girl and fuck it hurts so I’m running around with a sandwich board like a beggar - that’s how crappy I feel.” (self-revelation)

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Or maybe there’s more to it, maybe he does feel entitled to get her back. We don’t know. It doesn’t say on the board or between the lines.

What most people seem to hear though is:

“I’m a creepy rapist guy who just wants to rape my ex who shamelessly dumped me, the stupid wench, and I’m gonna guilt-trip her into coming back to me because I’m just so entitled to fucking her. If you read this, hoe, come back or you’ll regret it.”

Which to me sounds a lot like:

“Fuck, I hate men and everything they do. They just want sex.”

Which in the end results in (some) guys going:

“Yeah, girls think we just want sex, no matter what we do and how nice it is. Let’s take advantage of them reluctantly offer having sex when we bring home flowers, who knows when it’ll happen again?”

tl;dr:

As long as you don’t have a statement from his girlfriend that he’s an abusive, sex-crazed asshole that she finally had the strength to leave, please, don’t come barging in with words like ‘rape culture’. As far as we know they argued about his cat or her dog and things got out of hand and ended in a fight and they broke off.

He could be a genuinely nice guy and she could be the biggest scumbag on the planet who gangbangs his friends while he does the laundry and cleans the house he pays for and just left him for a guy with a 10” c-ck and a Ferrari — but god-damn-it he loves her and wants her back!

We all know SHIT about her or him - apart from the fact that he runs around with a sandwich board, sharpies and gets people to write stuff on the board with a picture of himself and his ex on it.

Don’t judge, people. And don’t throw the words ‘rape’ about in abundance in metaphors - someone might take it literally and someone gets arrested because of carrying a sandwich board.

(Source: mendmyheart)

1. Star Trek - Voyage Home; Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade; Dead Poets Society
2. Caffeine, sometimes alcohol and nicotine
3. This is not a question you’re interested in. #jedimindtrick
4. Jane Lynch, Matthew Gray Gubler, every new it-girl that pops up and annoys the living s—-something out of me.
5. “A question that sometimes drives me hazy: Am I or are the other’s crazy?” - A.E.
6. Alexander Mycroft & Evelyn Leonora #sosueme
7. dorkiness (not too dorky), a little attractiveness, attention, naughty ideas…
8. Subway to Sally, Meat Loaf, Herbert Grönemeyer, 3 Doors Down, Linkin Park
9. There’s a lot of things that I find icky, but I can’t put a finger on an outright fear & I don’t think heroes exist.
10. They usually impact me as a whole. Their mind and personality are usually a starting point…
11. Jupiter or Mars
12. Something that we’re both comfortable with, having butterflies in my belly, that tingle between two people who like each other & laughing a lot aka having fun.
13. Eidetic memory or super fast reading with high retention rate?
14. A cocktail, classic Martini cocktail (dry) or whisky.
15. I never have both at the same time and I’m not going to tell.
16. My urge to correct people on things that I know are plain wrong… sometimes, at least. ‘cause I get angry at them for being stupid and myself for even giving a damn.
17. I really have no idea.
18. That would really be a problem. My food urges change from week to week and thus it’s hardly good for me to buy stuff in bulk because by the time I get to buy it I’m not really in the mood for it anymore…

fran24ksawtgpb:

HOLY. CRAP.

I have to admit, I got excited for a second when he announced: “Okay, it’s ‘we all got to see Greg naked’ day!”

bowie28:

amy494walker:

cmwikibackup:

Action man ready for action.

*hears Reid calling* *see’s Reid naked* *omg MAPS WORKED!* *GTFO OF MY WAY!!!1!!*

lol @ the comment <3

The comment! Reminds me of something I wanted to write along those lines… oO

Yes, yes, yes! A thousand times, yes!

mbrgrbr:

OMG! OMG! OMG! I want this as my screensaver now!!! <3

“Yes, I’d like to order a large pizza with everything and extra cheese. No, that’s not the sound of a smoke detector going off in the background, why would you say that?”

(Source: gibsonthomas)